The headline here is a twist on a great book about how to not be a participant in your abuse called “Codependent No More“. The message directly relates to something CTH discusses frequently in both articles and in the comments section.
In order to stop being abused, you must first stop making excuses for your abuser. Accept things as they are, not as you interpret them to be. This tweet by Robert Barnes is a greatexample:
At first blush Barnes is saying something we can all agree with. Yes, Liz Cheney is toxic to the base of support within the republican party; and yes, the GOP putting Cheney into a very visible position of leadership tells us something. However, the visiblity of Liz Cheney is not because the GOPe are stupidly disconnected from their base, Liz Cheney is purposefully visible because the GOPe wants her there. She is a feature not a flaw or mistake; and the GOP totally gets it.
The Republican party believes the conservative voter base of the party is the problem, not the leadership. Please accept that as an empirical fact or we will continue to have discussions that are misinterpretations of motive. From the mindset of the institutional Republican party YOU are the problem, not Liz Cheney.
When you finally accept that the RNC wing of the UniParty hates you, literally hates their base of voters, only then can you begin to break the cycle known as “Battered Conservative Syndrome.”
However, to break this toxic mindset we must stand firm against the abuser. THEY are the problem, not you. THEY work for you, not vice-versa.
The GOP leadership is supposed to represent your priorities, not carry out their priorities while managing your angst.
We The People are being abused by them.
Everything they are doing – they are doing because what they are doing is exactly what they want to do.
The institutional republican leadership are not making mistakes. Accept who they are.
Battered Conservative No More!
If you are a regular reader of this site you are generally a person who engages in intellectual discussion on daily events and more than likely a root cause thinker. Meaning you are able to grasp events at their cause and not at their consequence.
However, for some reason, many of those who understand big picture dynamics are still comfortable sticking their heads in the sand about “motive”. Many people are still clinging to actual beliefs around a principle of ‘rule of law’ that applies to National Leadership.
You’d better change that thinking quickly – or you’ll be asking ‘what happened’ far too late.
There seems to be a willful blindness on the part of the American people, a chosen refusal to acknowledge the implications of the unAmerican and unConstititional behaviors, actions and outcomes we are being served on a daily basis.
It can no longer be presumed to be a matter of “I can’t see what’s happening” because a whole lot of normal Americans really are clean and articulate.
“I can’t see it” just doesn’t cut it anymore.